In this episode, brain-oriented therapist extraordinaire Juliane Taylor-Shore and John Howard discuss how understanding a little about your brain can make a huge difference in the security of your relationship. Both John and Jules study an interdisciplinary field known as ‘interpersonal neurobiology,’ or the application of neuroscience to self-awareness and relationships. You’ll learn how to tell when your or your partner’s brain is available for connection and when it is not, how to communicate about that with your partner, and how to rewire your brain for better relationship habits.
Despite the focus on neuroscience, this episode is very accessible. You don’t need to be a therapist to make use of the information. Enjoy!
Juliane Taylor-Shore is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner in private practice in south Austin. She trains and supervises therapists, and is known for her extensive knowledge of the neuroscience aspects of psychology. She specializes in trauma recovery and couples counseling and incorporates the biological underpinnings of how the mind and the brain come together to heal and grow. In her trauma work, she utilizes attachment theory, Somatic Experiencing and EMDR as her primary modalities. As a couples therapist, she draws from emotionally focused models and object relations theory. She runs a workshop series for therapists called “Understanding Your Clients Brain” and consults for therapists wanting to better understand the brain/mind connection.
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“I’m not interested in helping people stop flipping their lids. I’m interested in helping them react to the moment they do (flip their lid) differently.” – Juliane Taylor-Shore
Show Notes:
- How a basic understanding of neuroscience our brains can improve our relationships
- How to communicate about your brain’s state
- When the brain is unavailable for connection
- Neuroscience 101
- Neurons that fire together wire together
- How to bust old habits and create new ones
- Why a relationship is an ideal environment for personal growth
“When we say ‘natural,’ we mean what feels familiar to our brain. And what most of my couples are coming in for is that what feels normal to their brain is not actually making them happy– it’s not making them feel as loved and connected as they want.” – Juliane Taylor-Shore
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“Use self-compassion to evoke change. You want to change something? Bring compassion first.” – Jules Taylor-Shore