John Howard, MA is a relationship therapist and educator with over 15 years of experience helping people have awesome relationships. He helps singles find and develop great relationships and helps couples stay on track and enjoy their life together for the long-term.
John maintains a private practice in Austin, TX where he helps couples heal their wounds, reset, and thrive, and helps singles date wisely. John has led a relationship wellness program at Google, presents on the neuroscience of relationships at leading psychological conferences, and is a former faculty member of the PACT Institute, a leading training institute for couples therapists. He is the author of Entheos.com’s New Science of Relationship Series, a former national panelist for The Great Love Debate and presented at the Extraordinary Family Life Conference with Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Shefali Tsabary. He is the author of numerous articles on healthy relationship published by The Huffington Post, LifeHack and other outlets. His latest role is as Founder and CEO of Ready Set Love®, an online program that advances couples’ skills at connection, intimacy and communication.
For years, John studied with top researchers and clinicians in the areas of couples therapy, relationship health, relational neuroscience, attachment theory and other relationship-related sciences. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and holds a Masters degree in Counseling with a focus on Marriage and Family Therapy. John is also a spiritual teacher, having studied various indigenous and world traditions for twenty years. He leads non-denominational spiritual groups, and takes a non-conformist and irreverent approach to personal growth work. John is known for his fun yet science-based approach to helping partners deepen their love and intimacy.
John is influenced by various approaches to healthy relationship, including the work of Drs. Stan Tatkin, John Gottman and Sue Johnson, authors of leading relationship therapy models. A strong influence on John’s work has been the pioneering adaptation of modern neuroscience and attachment theory to adult relationships. Other influences include Drs. Dan Siegel, Allan Schore, Stephen Porges, Pat Ogden and Diana Fosha. Part of John’s mission is to promote relationship science that applies equally to all couples and does not discriminate on the basis of sexual orientation or how you define your relationship and commitment.
John presents across the U.S. to both professional psychotherapists and public audiences. For years he has helped to train relationship therapists in the leading scientific approaches to relationship growth, such as adult attachment styles, experiential and somatic work, regulation theory, and interpersonal neurobiology. He has taught the Association for Marriage and Family Therapy and presented Bringing Interpersonal Neuroscience into Couples Therapy at the annual Attachment, Trauma & Intimacy Conference in 2016.
John believes in relationship as a personal growth process. In addition to having an academic and scientific interest in relationship, he thinks of relationship as a spiritual journey that feeds the soul and asks us to learn and grow as individuals. To accomplish that growth through relationship, we must remain open, curious and reflective with one another. John draws from his years studying Eastern, Western and Native spiritual traditions to understand relationship as a process of healing and renewal: an opportunity to find greater love and peace in our hearts by discovering the unity in diversity.
John is a popular public speaker on topics ranging from the new science of relationship to spiritual growth. In 2013 he was featured on a panel of 15 national experts at the Extraordinary Family Life Conference. In 2014 he was chosen as one of twelve couple therapists worldwide to form the founding faculty of the PACT Institute, an educational organization dedicated to training psychotherapists in the latest neuroscience and attachment-based methods. John likes to blog on popular relationship topics for Lifehack.org and contributes to the Huffington Post. John is a Cuban-American who grew up in New York City. He likes to play guitar, speaks 3 languages, and believes in the lost art of appreciating opposing perspectives.