In this episode, sex therapist Dylan Davies and I discuss how partners can improve their communication about sex, pave the way to increased desire, more and better sex, and deeper emotional intimacy. You’ll learn how to preserve eroticism in your relationship, how to conjure up desire, and hear about Dylan’s favorite phrases for making sex more interesting. We’ll also debunk some common myths about sexual communication.
Dylan Davies, MA, is a sex therapist specializing in couples with a particular interest in working with sexual shame and out-of-control sexual behavior (a.k.a. “sex addiction”). Additionally, she enjoys helping couples cultivate and refine the art of eroticism in their relationships. Her mission is to help her clients explore the paradoxes of sex and intimacy, prioritize pleasure and create more vitality in their lives – in and out of the bedroom. She is a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF), and is one of the original co-founders of the Southwest Sexual Health Alliance.
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“Are you open to being intimate?” – Dylan Davies
Show Notes:
- How to preserve eroticism in your relationship
- How to conjure desire within yourself and your partner
- Obligation is not sexy
- How non-sexual intimacy can open the gate to sex
- How improv classes can teach you to have better sex
- How someone who is anxious about sex can learn to loosen up and have fun
- On “ruining the moment”
- How to not feel weird about your fetish
- Why it’s important not to conflate love and lust
- Sex is a renewable resource
“What mood do we want to go to?” – Dylan Davies
Links Mentioned:
- Get a copy of Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.
- Read Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
- Get a copy of The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin
- Connect with Dylan Davies:
“You cannot perform an eroticectomy; you cannot excise the thing that turns you on the most.” – Doug Braun-Harvey